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Ask OP to post, he like old folwmragoobir wrote:Pics of mom?zoom rader wrote:Root cause is his momadnj wrote:Les Bain wrote:... getting him to a counsellor to find out the root of the problem is a good start...
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Once he roast it, see no problemzoom rader wrote:Ask OP to post, he like old folwmragoobir wrote:Pics of mom?zoom rader wrote:Root cause is his momadnj wrote:Les Bain wrote:... getting him to a counsellor to find out the root of the problem is a good start...
The only answer worth noting in this thread.
Who says you need to be a parent to give parenting advice?carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
Noone. It's just that some of the most ridiculous parenting advice comes from people who are not parents who believe that parenting techniques can be broadly and universally applied and what worked 20 years ago will still work today. Circumstances and personalities differ...K74T wrote:Who says you need to be a parent to give parenting advice?carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
zoom rader wrote:Root cause is his momadnj wrote:Les Bain wrote:... getting him to a counsellor to find out the root of the problem is a good start...
The only answer worth noting in this thread.
I told OP this and fellow tuners to avoid single moms.The_Honourable wrote:zoom rader wrote:Root cause is his momadnj wrote:Les Bain wrote:... getting him to a counsellor to find out the root of the problem is a good start...
The only answer worth noting in this thread.
A lot of times the single mom is the problem. It's still a taboo subject to discuss for some as single moms are viewed as strong, hardworking, queens, and do no wrong. There are some single moms who do their best and well done to them, but there are some who are absolute beasts that abuse their child or children because most likely they were abused themselves. When challenged, such as the child begins to rebel, they play victim and blame "the child father". When the child does good despite the abuse, they take 100% credit.
OP, investigate the mom just to make sure.
On point and concur. OP has only painted part of the picture and there will be many other factors at play that would contribute into the decision/s to deal with this situation.meccalli wrote:carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
The mother in question here clearly knows what's best for her son and should continue treating him as usual since she knows his personality and circumstances and is an actual parent, it's working out well.
Getting pregnant or being responsible for it doesn't magically confer good parental skills, it passes down by practical instruction to the children who themselves were subject to such. Alternately, so does terrible parenting.
meccalli wrote:carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
The mother in question here clearly knows what's best for her son and should continue treating him as usual since she knows his personality and circumstances and is an actual parent, it's working out well.
Getting pregnant or being responsible for it doesn't magically confer good parental skills, it passes down by practical instruction to the children who themselves were subject to such. Alternately, so does terrible parenting.
Monk BANzai wrote:meccalli wrote:carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
The mother in question here clearly knows what's best for her son and should continue treating him as usual since she knows his personality and circumstances and is an actual parent, it's working out well.
Getting pregnant or being responsible for it doesn't magically confer good parental skills, it passes down by practical instruction to the children who themselves were subject to such. Alternately, so does terrible parenting.
right now i reading and deciphering the egos from those genuinely interested...but out of this came two inbox messages/calls from professional counselors who are on the board and willing to offer to have sessions with him...each offering the first session free of charge.
To you (you know who you are) i thank you on behalf of a grateful mother. Once she goes with one i'll inform the other so that there isn't a feeling of "abuse of free-ness".
Glad something helping out, but the mom needs some help aswellMonk BANzai wrote:meccalli wrote:carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
The mother in question here clearly knows what's best for her son and should continue treating him as usual since she knows his personality and circumstances and is an actual parent, it's working out well.
Getting pregnant or being responsible for it doesn't magically confer good parental skills, it passes down by practical instruction to the children who themselves were subject to such. Alternately, so does terrible parenting.
right now i reading and deciphering the egos from those genuinely interested...but out of this came two inbox messages/calls from professional counselors who are on the board and willing to offer to have sessions with him...each offering the first session free of charge.
To you (you know who you are) i thank you on behalf of a grateful mother. Once she goes with one i'll inform the other so that there isn't a feeling of "abuse of free-ness".
devrat wrote:BANzai, there is no across the board solution from these issues as every child has their own personality and at 14 he is struggling to discover his own identity. I have a 14 year old boy and as you are aware, am a single parent since he was 5 years old. He has some behavior problems also but it has a lot to do with finding himself and pushing boundaries set by parental figures.
Being in a "prestige" school can be demanding and if he is falling short will exert his "dominance" in other ways especially of he has the size to back it up.
There were comments about the mother posted here that shows immaturity. "She single for a reason" .....reason is the adults can't stay together, but there is no excuse for a man not to be a father to his son....unless he's dead!
Find the underlying issues, my son has seen a psychologist recommended by his school......more for him to be able to speak out instead of holding it in.
There is no text book fix.
Nope that is not the answer. It's the mom that is the problemEFFECTIC DESIGNS wrote:It is part of evolution, he is doing what he is supposed to do in the absence of a father or any dominating male figure in his life.
The only real solution is for her to take a belt and give him ah sweet cut arse infront of the whole school.
zoom rader wrote:Nope that is not the answer. It's the mom that is the problemEFFECTIC DESIGNS wrote:It is part of evolution, he is doing what he is supposed to do in the absence of a father or any dominating male figure in his life.
The only real solution is for her to take a belt and give him ah sweet cut arse infront of the whole school.
EFFECTIC DESIGNS wrote:Better solution is maybe Banzai could talk to the fella and offer him some life and school advice.
shake d livin wake d dead wrote:enroll him in the MILAT program...serious thing
No it is notredmanjp wrote:lack of a father figure is the cause of a lot of these problems. of course many single mothers doh want to admit it
K74T wrote:Who says you need to be a parent to give parenting advice?carluva wrote:Out of curiousity, of all the responses received to OPs first post, how many of those are from *actual* parents?
snatman wrote:shake d livin wake d dead wrote:enroll him in the MILAT program...serious thing
is there a similar program for non-problematic kids?
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