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If I may be so fass.What happened to the gf?aaron17 wrote:Good points ... i have no friends.
75 percent of my day to day is being alone.
It dropped even more with covid.
aaron17 wrote:We use to have cats..but our family saw it as a burden and when it is their time to go..they dont want to feel the pain and sadness.Rovin wrote:i am glad to see strangers\tuners here helping out each other not just for cars\tools\construction\computer etc stuff but on a personal level too
hobbies actually help alot to take lifes daily stress away, cud be a simple thing like already mentioned watching sitcoms\tv series\movies or for me watching educational stuff on youtube
in addition to what everybody already said i would advise getting a pet like a cat or a dog, believe me after whatever hard day u had or whatever u going thru & u come home they gonna greet\appreciate u more than humans will & that helps u to de-stress a ton ...
Dohplaydat wrote:matr1x wrote:In all fairness, what about life is really worth living?
Frivolous crap like marriage and children are not real things which keep your life rich and interesting. Finding a purpose to live that's not dependent on another to keep you happy is the first step
You think human connection is frivolous? I think (at least for me) those are the most important things for happiness. That and finding purpose with your life, which is what I believe you're referring too.
However, it's easy to forget in these Covid times that we are social animals and we (at least most of us) do find comfort in friendships, family and partners.
st7 wrote:dude it's good you letting it out. that in itself is supposed to be therapeutic. whatever it is you're going thru, we all go thru it too.
getting a pet helps. i have a friend who had it worse off and when she got her dog, it changed her for the better. animals tend to be our emotional support buddies without realising it. and a dog will love you forever so that's a plus.
do you like star wars, mcu stuff etc? there's a local star wars discord group that does watch parties every week and discussing the latest news with mcu+dc+other cool things with tv, movies, etc. it's kinda a nerd haven lol
if you wanna join, lemme know.
matr1x wrote:Dohplaydat wrote:matr1x wrote:In all fairness, what about life is really worth living?
Frivolous crap like marriage and children are not real things which keep your life rich and interesting. Finding a purpose to live that's not dependent on another to keep you happy is the first step
You think human connection is frivolous? I think (at least for me) those are the most important things for happiness. That and finding purpose with your life, which is what I believe you're referring too.
However, it's easy to forget in these Covid times that we are social animals and we (at least most of us) do find comfort in friendships, family and partners.
Human interaction is important. But especially in isolated times, you need to have purpose outside of that
Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
Bro this life is too short to take any sheit seriously.aaron17 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
yea a while now, i was posting the on the music thread
aaron17 wrote:.
aaron17 wrote:st7 wrote:dude it's good you letting it out. that in itself is supposed to be therapeutic. whatever it is you're going thru, we all go thru it too.
getting a pet helps. i have a friend who had it worse off and when she got her dog, it changed her for the better. animals tend to be our emotional support buddies without realising it. and a dog will love you forever so that's a plus.
do you like star wars, mcu stuff etc? there's a local star wars discord group that does watch parties every week and discussing the latest news with mcu+dc+other cool things with tv, movies, etc. it's kinda a nerd haven lol
if you wanna join, lemme know.
i liked MCU..last time was endgame ..that was the endgame for me in Marvel. ALways liked TDK trilogy and Nolan stuff. Movies has replaced with you tube vids. The only thing recently I got back watching was Seinfeld. I havent thought of a time i sit down with popcorn enjoying a 3 hour movie.. i guess only endgame.
After endgame was some movies trickle down here and there...Saving private ryan , war movies but tinking about that seems depressing.
I should go back and start watching back rush hour and ole school comedies like that. It seems better when there are ppl around enjoying the same movies...idk
timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
st7 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
haha... what DAW are you using?
FrankChag wrote:aaron17 wrote:.
Aaron,
"Coping" is something we ALL need help with from time to time. And it's normal. So nothing is wrong with asking (directly or indirectly) for help from someone. That help to cope comes through your support mechanisms. I hear you saying that some of your coping mechanisms are not as strong as you like right now. That happens.
You should first realize that you are your first support mechanism, and pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. "Not today sadness, not today" is a good affirmative phrase.
Then look at your supports: your family, your friends, your social circles. I'm hearing you saying that you believe these could be improved right now. I don't know more about you, but you should try improving these: reach out to family and friends; make a small lime; go to your church or masjid; make an appointment with a psychologist and have a chat; It might be rough, I know, but try. About social media (including forums): you should not consider us as your support group, unless you know someone personally. Forum users, ppl on twitter, etc are very fickle and can erode your progress.
It may sound corny, and I don't know what your belief system is, but you should also try to (re)establish your connection with your Creator, and seek His Guidance and Forgiveness.
I hope for you also that you should also get married if you're not. I can assure you, with all the stresses that come with marriage, it's more than worth it as a form of support.
Finally, to help you recognize what you're feeling, to help with your coping:
- sadness is caused by pondering on the past
- stress/anxiety is caused by pondering on the present
- worry is caused by pondering on the future.
Be mindful of what you're feeling. It's your first defense against those feelings.
"Not today sadness/stress/anxiety/worry .. Not today."
Hope some or all of this helps,
~FC
PS, for the Muslims:
There are duas for sadness, stress, anxiety and worry:
https://ahadith.co.uk/hisnulmuslim-dua-34
https://imgur.com/a/txWWqSA (dua)
KM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
haha... what DAW are you using?
I know you didn't ask but i use reaper. Tuner should have a mix tape. Guess i'm not the only one recording a bedroom album . Anyone wanna collab inbox.
st7 wrote:KM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
haha... what DAW are you using?
I know you didn't ask but i use reaper. Tuner should have a mix tape. Guess i'm not the only one recording a bedroom album . Anyone wanna collab inbox.
i'm using StudioOne... recommended by a padna who uses it, and i bug him whenever i need help with something lol
Excellent choice of speakers there. I wanna do a pair and sub in my bedroom myselfKM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:KM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
haha... what DAW are you using?
I know you didn't ask but i use reaper. Tuner should have a mix tape. Guess i'm not the only one recording a bedroom album . Anyone wanna collab inbox.
i'm using StudioOne... recommended by a padna who uses it, and i bug him whenever i need help with something lol
I have a copy of studio one to utilize when I bought my presonus studio monitors. Is it any good? I really find reaper is the most user friendly. I download a pirate copy of fab pro filter 3 and liking myself with EQ these days , really makes a track sound more refined and professional. I mostly play guitar.
nick639v2 wrote:Excellent choice of speakers there. I wanna do a pair and sub in my bedroom myselfKM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:KM_2NR wrote:st7 wrote:timelapse wrote:Hoss, make music.Make plenty music.Post up some tracks and whether anybody likes it or not is irrelevant,as long as it tells your story.aaron17 wrote:But really and truely ..when I make music or listen to that type of genre I like ..i feel a sense of euphoria like never before . I should go back in the saddle .. Idk why i stopped...i guess the negative effects of the pandemic
I working on a whole album right now.Real Satanic stuff ,but I don't care who thinks what about it.Industrial goth metal is the soundtrack to my life.Collab some day if you interested in that sort of thing.
haha... what DAW are you using?
I know you didn't ask but i use reaper. Tuner should have a mix tape. Guess i'm not the only one recording a bedroom album . Anyone wanna collab inbox.
i'm using StudioOne... recommended by a padna who uses it, and i bug him whenever i need help with something lol
I have a copy of studio one to utilize when I bought my presonus studio monitors. Is it any good? I really find reaper is the most user friendly. I download a pirate copy of fab pro filter 3 and liking myself with EQ these days , really makes a track sound more refined and professional. I mostly play guitar.
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